Redesign your Life Plan with the “Power of the Pause”
Tara Brach, psychologist, and author, writes on the “power of the pause” in bullfighting. “In bullfighting there is an interesting parallel to the pause as a place of refuge and renewal. In the midst of a fight, a bull can find his own particular area of safety in the arena. There he can reclaim his strength and power. This place and inner state are called his “querencia”. As long as the bull remains enraged and reactive, the matador is in charge. Yet when he finds his querencia, he gathers his strength and loses his fear. From the matador’s perspective, at this point the bull is truly dangerous, for he has tapped into his power.”
Life’s challenges can leave us feeling overlooked and overwhelmed. Like the bull in the arena, we have a choice.
We can confront these challenges with the “power of speed” or the “power of the pause.”
Speed is enticing. Speed promises a quick escape and quick results.
Speed is deceitful. For if you run at break-neck speed, you will most likely break your neck.
The power of the pause is quite different. If you take the time to pause, to gather perspective concerning your personal life, your vocation, your family, faith, and community. Then, and only then, will you gain the power to design a life you’ll love.
“When was the last time you pressed the pause button? Can you even locate your pause button?”
- What’s RIGHT in my life?
- What’s WRONG in my life?
- What’s CONFUSED in my life?
- What’s MISSING in my life?
These four questions come from the Paterson #LifePlanning process I use with clients during my two-day Life Planning retreat. I love watching as the power of pause leads them to clarity and breakthrough. Tom Paterson, the designer of Life Plan, used to say, “Problems shout, but opportunities whisper.” I like to say,
“Running from problems means running past opportunities”
If I can help, please let me know.
Thanks for reading,
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